There are moments in life when the heart feels heavy with questions.
Why am I still alone?
Why did this fall apart?
Why does everyone else seem to be moving forward, except me?
Over the weekend at WTC KL, Mufti Menk gently reminded us of something many of us forget in the rush of life: our questions are not signs of weak faith, they are invitations to come closer to Allah (s.w.t.).
Across two deeply moving sessions, the conversations flowed around love, loss, marriage, heartbreak, patience and the quiet ways Allah (s.w.t.) carries us through seasons we never chose but somehow survived.
And when you step back, both themes point to one truth:
We are never abandoned, even when we feel broken, delayed, or unsure of what comes next.
When Everyone Else is Moving Forward
In a season where wedding invitations seem endless, it’s easy for those who are unmarried to feel left behind. The silence can be loud. The questions are even louder.
Mufti Menk addressed this with honesty and compassion, reminding us that marriage is a beautiful sunnah, but it is not a race. Allah (s.w.t.) tells us in the Qur’an that He created us in pairs, yet He also reminds us that everything unfolds in His perfect timing.
The task of a believer is not to panic or compare, but to prepare the heart.
Preparation begins with du’a’. Asking Allah (s.w.t.) not just for a spouse, but for the right spouse. Someone who brings you closer to Allah (s.w.t.). Someone who is kind to their family. Someone whose presence feels like calm, not chaos.
But du’a’ alone doesn’t mean waiting passively. Faith must walk alongside effort.
Trust Allah (s.w.t.), yes. But also show up in life. Attend gatherings. Be open to introductions. Allow yourself to meet people. Tawakkul doesn’t mean doing nothing; it means doing what you can and then placing the outcome fully in Allah’s (s.w.t.) hands.
And when it comes to compatibility, Mufti Menk reminded us of a comforting truth: compatibility is not found—it is built.
Differences are not flaws. Different hobbies, tastes, personalities. These don’t weaken a marriage. Learning to embrace those differences, to grow together in faith and character, is where love deepens, and barakah enters the home.
When Life Doesn’t Go as Planned
Yet even for those who are married, successful, or seemingly “settled,” life can still break us in unexpected ways.
Loss. disappointment. Failure. Grief.
Mufti Menk reminded us that hardship is not a sign of Allah’s (s.w.t.) displeasure. Even the Prophet Muhammad (s.a.w.) experienced immense sorrow. So much so that one year of his life was known as “The Year of Sadness.“ He lost loved ones. He wept. He felt pain. And yet, he was never broken in spirit.
Why? Because his heart was anchored in trust.
Hardship is not meant to crush us. It is meant to shape us. Allah (s.w.t.) only places us in situations He knows we can endure, even when we feel at the edge of our strength.
And no, Islam does not ask us to pretend we are okay when we are not.
You are allowed to cry, to grieve, to feel tired… These are not signs of weak iman. They are signs of being human.
Healing begins when we stop fighting our emotions and instead return to Allah (s.w.t.) with them—messy, honest, and hopeful.
Broken, But Never Unloved
One of the most powerful reminders shared was this: being broken does not mean being unloved.
In fact, Allah (s.w.t.) often draws His servants closest during moments of weakness. When the heart is stripped of pride, certainty, and control, it becomes softer, more open to divine mercy.
Healing doesn’t happen overnight. But it begins with gratitude. With pausing long enough to notice how many times Allah (s.w.t.) has already carried us through things we once thought would end us.
Count the blessings you’ve survived. Count the doors that closed to protect you. Count the strength you didn’t know you had. And then, trust that whatever lies ahead is still under Allah’s (s.w.t.) care.
Carrying These Lessons Forward
Whether you’re waiting for a life partner, recovering from heartbreak, navigating loss, or simply trying to hold it all together, the message was clear:
Your story is not over. Your timing is not wrong. And Allah (s.w.t.) is still writing something beautiful for you.
As the weekend came to a close, we were grateful to welcome so many of you to our booth, sharing conversations, books, and moments of reflection together. We hope the knowledge you brought home continues to bring light, comfort, and strength long after the event.
If these reminders resonated with you, pass them on. Sometimes, one shared message is exactly what another heart needs to keep going.
May Allah (s.w.t.) heal what feels heavy, bless what is yet to come, and remind us that even when we feel broken, we are deeply, endlessly beloved.
